Failure is an event, not a person. – William D. Brown
We make many mistakes and missteps while figuring out what is appropriate for us. It has to be that way. But knowing that is not enough. It’s also important to know that we cannot get it wrong when we are in tune with ourselves. Much of it concerns our perspective on the details of our lives. I have several suggestions to empower you regardless of how many mistakes or missteps you have made. Here are a few of them. Have fun with it, show yourself some compassion, be proud of yourself, and remember, “not all who wander are lost.”
1. Chill Out And Have Fun With It
You’re Destined To Get What’s Right For You Right
2. Don’t Call Something A Problem If There Is No Problem
Often, the things we call problems are not problems at all. We call doctors “Practitioners.” In the same way, we are practicing ways to live our best lives, yet we can be too critical of ourselves when we do err.
Listen, we will get some shit wrong, but we will also get some shit right. The key is believing that you will figure it all out when you focus on getting the life lessons.
Follow the cues your life shows you, and you will know how to move forward. Ain’t nobody trying to keep going around that same old mountain. I know I am not. I want to learn from my experiences and move on to new stuff.
I have learned that it is important to accept our mistakes because that is the first step to turning them into personal miracles! No matter what. It is always best to take what’s there, but that does not mean that things cannot change for the better.
I appreciate every mistake and misstep because I would not be the person I am without them. So, I thank you, God, for all of it. I’m good.
3. Learn To Be Okay With Selfishness
4. Show Yourself Some Compassion
Give Yourself A Good High-Five!
Hug yourself. Create a self-praise banner. High-five yourself, kiss yourself, and cheer for yourself. Start there. Whatever happens after that is insignificant because self-love will make you feel so secure that you won’t depend on validation from anyone else. Implement self-appreciation, self-encouragement, great self-worth, and self-trust. Finally, like that gospel song by Donald Lawrence says, encourage yourself. You’ve got this.
Be Proud of Yourself
A few years ago, I painted a message on a rock that said, “I am very proud of myself.” And I meant it! I am still proud of myself. And that simple message I painted on the rock carried me through those tough times when I foolishly thought otherwise. Yet, something on the inside told me to choose truth over what I felt during times of uncertainty.
We all know that facts prevail every single time, no matter what. So, give yourself a big hug. You have done well!
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5. Run People’s Motives Through A Sieve
You Can’t Get It Wrong Unless You Stop Trying
6. Commit To Honest Self-Inquiry
Do The Work
Byron Katie is a personal development coach who teaches that we should live based on self-inquiry. She calls her program, The Work. I love it because it leaves no room for pretense. I’m not too fond of hypocrisy. Her program has four questions we can ask ourselves if we are serious about personal growth. (The link to her website is below this article.) It is beneficial for those who want to get over a victim mentality.
The Four Questions From The Work by Byron Katie
Can you absolutely know that it’s true? (Yes or no.)
How do you react (what happens) when you believe that thought?
Who or what would you be without the thought?
7. Always Tell The Whole Truth
Everything depends on our willingness to embrace truth rather than our faulty emotions. So, when you start believing in stupid stuff that does not serve you, ask yourself, “Is it true?” I love that because 99% of the stuff we cling to is a lie. We lie to ourselves all the time, and as long as we are okay with lying to ourselves, we will lie to everyone else. Please stop doing that to yourself.
When we are honest with ourselves first, there is no way we won’t get things right. Go ahead. Push those buttons and commit your faulty thinking to direct inquiry. I promise you will be glad you did.
8. Remember, You Started With A Clean Slate
9. Be Aware Of How Your Life Feels To You
10. Do It Piece-By-Piece If You Have To
You might have to piece some things together, but that is okay if you don’t give up on yourself. Committing to what others want for your life does not mean they will value you more. People often want us to do what makes them feel comfortable, regardless of how we feel. So, don’t concern yourself with what people think.
Remember, this is your life, and you get to decide things without a vote from others. You have far more power than you credit to yourself. Trust me.
11. Not All Who Wander Are Lost
If we are not careful, we can begin to sink in our estimation of ourselves because we fail to see particular mistakes on the backdrop of the entire canvas of our lives. And it is the whole canvas that matters.
12. Develop Self-Integrity
Keep things simple, even if you must go back to the basics to strengthen your foundation that life crushed.
13. Decide What Your Miracle Looks Like
14. Trust Your Instincts
Go with your gut. Every time I compromised to accommodate what someone else wanted for me, it turned out to be a mess. But whenever I went with my gut, I had the most success and inner peace. Isn’t that something?
Beware of a lot of “God” talk because people are great at attaching God’s name to their stuff. I have faith in God, but your head will spin if I told you the crap people said God told them about my life. I get a headache even thinking about it.
If you love God, you want to hear his voice and follow his lead. Hence, I have not written anything contradictory here. So, relax.
15. The Shortest Distance Sometimes Alludes Us
Live doesn’t offer many shortcuts. We know from 7th-grade geometry that the shortest distance between two points is a straight line. But we don’t usually get to experience life in straight lines. Indeed, life rarely happens at perfect 90-degree angles. Instead, we experience it in ways that mostly resemble random curves, parabolas, and zigzags. How cool would it be if we could?
Own It And Grow From It
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